Congratulations. You've Been Successfully Outsourced.
By the time a woman is past forty, she’s tried at least 283 different things that are supposed to help improve her health.
Okay, I completely made that number up, but it sounds feasible. Between programs, supplements, challenges, meal plans, morning routines, special equipment, color-coded accountability charts, and trackers that politely inform you that you’re even failing at sleeping—well, it’s a lot.
You might assume that you're the problem. You didn’t try hard enough or stick with whatever you were doing long enough. But what if you're exactly where the fitness industry has trained you to be? Your goal is better health and more energy. Their goal is to make sure you never quite feel like you’ve arrived.
Let this sink in for a moment. When you learn to recognize, "I'm challenging my body enough, I'm eating reasonably well, I'm getting stronger, and this is working," you suddenly become much harder to sell to. You don't panic when your app gives you a mediocre readiness score. You don't abandon your workout protocol because someone on Instagram announced a revolutionary new way to exercise. You no longer need to be constantly “optimizing.”
You stop outsourcing your judgment and you start trusting your own experience again.
Because your goal was never to become really good at following instructions. It was to become someone who knows how to take care of herself. It's trusting yourself enough to stay with something long enough to let it work. Real strength and confidence grow from that. Dependence on the fitness industry mostly grows the fitness industry.
While I make my living in this industry, I have no interest in keeping women dependent on me.
I want women to understand enough about strength and their own bodies that they eventually stop feeling like they need someone standing over their shoulder. While having other women around for encouragement and accountability in the Wonderfulness Community is fun and helpful, we’re learning the fundamentals we need to grow stronger, become more confident, and stay independent for life.
If you're not ready to join us yet, start with my free 8-minute workout. It's not magic or even the missing piece you've been searching for—because you were never actually missing a piece. Eventually you may realize that the strongest thing you can build isn't muscle. It's self-trust.